Exersaucers versus Walkers

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Exersaucers are basically stationary swingers or jumpers that allow the baby's feet to touch the ground and allow babies to remain upright while playing with available toys and taking in the action around them (typical products of this category are the Fischer Price Jumperoo, the Evenflo Exersaucers, the Baby Einstein Discover and Play Activity Center and many more).

  • Exersaucers have this benefit vis-a-vis walkers: They are not mobile. As they are stationary play centers, they do not allow babies to move around a room. This secures a very low rate of accidents. Paediatricians in fact encourage parents to opt for exersaucers instead of walkers, when it comes to keeping a baby busy in upright position (check scientific sites on the internet for further information).
  • Exersaucers however have this disantvantage, compared with traditional playpens (or with floor activity supervised by the parent): They keep the baby in a restrained upright position, not allowing the baby to explore its own body and experiment with new moves. In this context, no exersaucer has been proved to actually promote mobility training of babies. As they are stationary they should be bought on the complete understanding that their role is basically restrained to keeping a baby busy in an interesting and safe way, but not as "exercising" your baby in training it to walk or stand as their name may suggest.

Essentials for a Newborn Baby

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Clothing

The following is a list of clothing you will need in the first few weeks:

  • Sleepsuits - Most guides will tell you that you only need a few. From my experience I would say you need at least 6. I can remember one day when my eldest daughter got through 13 sleepsuits in one day! My figure of 6 is based on you having a washing machine & drying facilities.
  • Vests - I would suggest the same amount for vests
  • Clothes - 4 mix & match outfits - This all depends on your personal tastes of course.
  • Socks/tights - The amount depends on whether you intend to use them under sleepsuits. I have got a pack of 5 pairs of socks & two pairs of tights.
  • Hat - Really you only need one of these but a spare would never hurt. The hospitals often suggest that you bring a hat in with you as it can be cold in corridors etc.
  • Coat - I find the best kind is an all in one zip up ski-suit type. These can be especially useful in the early weeks as you can always tuck the coat around baby if they have fallen asleep.
  • Scratch Mitts - To be honest I wouldnt waste your money. Not one of my babies have managed to keep them on for more than 10 seconds.
  • Shoes - Optional but I love them coz they are sooooooooo cute & tiny! I have 5 pairs but I bought them from eBay at a fraction of their original prices.
  • Bibs - Again optional but I would always advise tucking one under babies chin in order to catch the dribbles. Dribbled milk can cause staining to the neck of sleepsuits especially if your baby is on soya milk.

Furniture/Travel

These are the most expensive items so make sure you shop around for a good deal. Buying second hand is always a good idea but never a car seat. If a car seat has been in an accident it may no longer be safe to use. I would also advise replacing the matress on a second hand cot.

  • Cot/Cot bed - Once you have made your purchase you will also need at least two of the following: Blanket, sheet & a fitted cot sheet. If you would prefer you can now buy special sleeping bags for babies. The verdict is out on cot bumpers. Some people swear by them but others feel they can cause problems. I personally have never used cot bumpers for any of my children.
  • Car Seat - Make sure the seat is the right stage for your baby. Practice fitting the seat in your car so you are familiar with it when you come to use it. As mentioned before never buy a car seat second hand as it may be unsafe!
  • Buggy - Make sure you choose a buggy that is suitable for baby & you. If you can push the buggy around the shop & try opening it & folding it up. You & the buggy are gonna be fast buddies for awhile. Ideally you want one you can open with one hand & foot. You'll know why once your baby is born!
  • Others - Strictly speaking all other large items are not essential for tiny babies but you may like to buy early or use things such as a baby carrier. I had one for my first baby but I found having her strapped to my front a little awkward.

Toiletries & Feeding

Well thought I would put these things together as they are related! Eeek!

  • Bottles - You will need at least 6 bottles. The type you buy is obviously your choice but I would always recommend silicon teats over latex. My prefered teat is made by NUK. They are anti-colic & they work! If you are breastfeeding you may want to buy some bottles so you can express.
  • Sterilizer - There are many types on the market but I have found the best type for me is STEAM. I originally had a cold water sterilizer but it was time consuming & annoying. I must admit I have not used microwave. Always give a baby under six months sterilized bottles.
  • Milk Powder - Even if you are breastfeeding I would suggest that you buy a ready made mix for emergency. If you reach the end of your tether it will be in the night which can make buying some difficult. My prefered make is Cow & Gate. However two of my children were lactose intolerant for the first few weeks (quite common) & so they had to have soya milk. I chose the SMA brand called WYSOY.
  • Dummies - Your choice completely. But if you do use one I would suggest silicone over latex. Once again NUK do a good range.
  • Changing Mat - Optional but keeps mess in one place & can save carpets.
  • Nappies - If you are using traditional nappies you will need at least 12, pins, liners & a bucket to keep them in when soiled. I would suggest you keep a pack of disposables handy just in case.
  • Wipes/Cream - If you choose to use wipes then my recommendation is JOHNSONS as they are not to wet & are impregnated with baby lotion. For bum cream I use SUDOCREM. You can usually but small packs/tubs of these items so try out a few to see which is best for you & your baby.
  • Nappy Sacks/Wrapper - A wrapper can be expensive but you can get the same results by buying a small lidded bin & using fragranced nappy sacks.
  • Bath/Bath Essentials - The best bath I have found by far is one made by MOTHERCARE. It fits on the bath making it a lot easier for washing & draining. You will also need a towel, cotton wool, shampoo & bubble bath (optional but smells lovely). Soap my not be needed in the earliest days but if you do want to use it I would recommend either a special wash for babies or a mild liquid soap. To be honest in the very earliest days you can just wash the baby in the sink but I prefer to use a bath.

Others

Strictly speaking these items are not essential but I wouldnt be without then form day one.

  • Cot mobile - There are loads out there but I prefer the types which have a remote rather than wind up. I would recommend TINY LOVE or EARLY LEARNING CENTRE for the remote types.
  • Cot Activity Centre - This gives baby something to look at & reach for helping to develop their vision & motor skills.
  • Play-Gym - A fab item which babies seem to love. There are loads out there so get looking.
  • Rattles - Good to help baby with hand-eye co-ordination.
  • Monitor - Good to keep your mind at rest when baby is asleep in another room. There are many many types so make sure you shop around for the one that suits you best
  • Changing Bag - These are useful items but to be honest a ruck sack & a travel change mat do the same job!

Well thats about all I can think of at the mo....if I think of anymore I will update this guide. I'm suffering from pregnancy brains at the moment so I've probably forgotten something major. If this is the case, sorry! If you have read this guide & have found it interesting please make sure you vote for it.

Thanks Tracy

10 TOP BIDDING TIPS-A GUIDE TO BIDDING STRATEGY

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THE PROXY BID

If you are new to buying on eBay, I recommend this technique. In fact it's hardly a technique at all, more of an acceptance of how things work, really. You want the item; you agonise over the possibility of being outbid; you know the clock is ticking inexorably towards the final countdown; you've heard of bidders who "win" actions in the last second but aren't sure how they do it; you bid again and again, before maybe losing out in the final seconds...  Well there is a better way. Have you ever seen the proxy bids being taken by the auctioneer at an auction house?  Just imagine eBay taking your maximum bid, and bidding on your behalf until you either win or are finally outbid. This is exactly what happens when you enter an amount into that box, but with the absolute certainty that eBay will not "take bids off the wall" or "bump the price". If you want the item, and you are the bidder with the highest "invisible" maximum, then you will win that item, whether a "sniper" enters the fray in the last few seconds or not. Without doubt, the safest strategy for a new buyer, or someone who simply doesn't want anything to go wrong in the last few seconds.

LOW BIDDING

Have you ever noticed, in "completed listings" searches, that a buyer has often won an item for next to nothing?  Notwithstanding the need to check postage fees for each item, you can often pick up a bargain by leaving a low bid on several similar items, in the hope that you will be successful at least once. This strategy is often employed by eBay sellers (attempting to resell at a profit), who will target inexperienced eBayers who set their starting price too low commensurate with the number of likely bidders for their item. It may not matter whether they win more than one, so they are able to cast their "net" over a wide area. If you are a new buyer who just wants to pick up a bargain, however, you can use this technique by placing a low bid on your next targeted item as soon as you know you were outbid on the previous one (and there are software packages that allow you to bid automatically on many consecutive items, stopping as soon as you are successful with one of them). Look at the completed listings for the item you are after, list them in price order (using the drop down menu), decide on a maximum proxy bid that is low but has proved to be successful recently, and just submit it and forget about it. There are some sellers who earn a tidy sum employing this method of buying to sell, so do not discount it if you are organised and patient.

JUST A PENNY MORE

Have you noticed how the bid increments work?  They gradually get larger as the bid price rises. If you know what the bid increments are, for any given bid price, you can outbid another bidder in theory by one penny, if you both have the same maximum proxy bid. You may have noticed that the bid price suddenly changes sometimes, from being a uniform figure , to something like x pounds and 53 pence. Well, at that point a bidder has added a few extra pence to their bid, and the odd pence are carried onwards up the bidding scale. If you're not sure how the calculation is made then my advice would be to just be to bid a few pence more than the minimum figure required (and indicated). Risky, if you really want the item, but you may save yourself one bid increment per auction, which all adds up.

SNIPING

Well what can I say. When an item is "won" in the dying seconds (and sometimes even the very last second), not only do the unsuccessful bidders feel cheated but the seller often feels cheated too. That's why many sellers will remind buyers of the "danger" of being "sniped" and extolling the best way of "defeating" snipers (submitting the highest proxy bid the bidder can afford, well before the end of the auction). But what if you want to be a sniper too?  Well, from a moral standpoint you have to make your own judgement, but the practice is very common on eBay and a whole industry has grown up around this potentially successful strategy, with dozens of products available to automate the procedure.  Whilst eBay will not allow me to provide any links from this guide, it's easy to find one that offers a free trial, and one or two are completely free. And what happens if there are several snipers ready to pounce on the same item? Well, all the snipers will have set their maximum amount, which will be submitted as a proxy bid to eBay in the normal way, and the only difference is that the bid is submitted automatically as close to the auction's end as possible. The end result is that the bidder, or indeed the sniper, with the highest proxy bid wins and, by definition, the whole point of sniping is to win with a lower bid, so it is by no means certain that you will succeed every time. A useful technique for some buyers, but risky to rely on 3rd party software interaction for that "must have" item.

THE EARLY BID

This isn't poker, but many bidders hold their "cards" close to their chest, so why do you see some bids very early in the life-cycle of an auction?  Well, this is only my humble opinion, but  consider this situation. An experienced dealer enters an early proxy bid of £150, on an item that may sell for £300, but has a starting price of 99 pence. Several buyers place bids, only to see their bid immediately outbid, in small increments (potentially all the way up to £150). They may give up and start bidding on a similar item elsewhere, which means that (whilst they remain the highest bidder on the second item) they are out of the running on the first item, if they want to ensure they are only bidding on one item at a time. A reduction in bidders, and indeed a reduction in the actual number of bids (since multiple bids make items more visible in certain searches) means a potentially lower final bid price, and the early bidder may enjoy the fruits of their clever strategy.

THE EDIT BLOCK

Now consider a second scenario, again involving a very early bid. The seller is inexperienced, and hasn't provided a very good description of his item. An experienced buyer sees this and places a bid, thus immediately preventing the seller from editing his description (he can now only "add" information to his original description, which looks messy in my opinion, and maybe in potential bidders' opinions too, perhaps reducing the chances of a high final price. The early bid also removes the "Buy it Now" option, which may also be part of the early bidder's plan. The early bird may well catch the worm.

THE "BUY IT NOW" STRIKE

Oh, how cruel it is to exploit the unwary. But if you didn't do it then someone else would. Select your favourite item category, search for items recently listed (using the drop down menu), and select those items with a "Buy it Now" by ticking the appropriate box in the left hand column. And there you have it. Just bypass the bidding completely by using "Buy it Now" to bag those items that have, in your opinion, a ridiculously low BIN price (and there will be some). Just do it quick, before some other savvy bidder spots the same item..

THE CHANCER

With ebay's "Make an Offer" feature you could, in theory, continously make ridiculously low offers to sellers. There is, however, a mechanism that allows sellers to choose the number of offers allowed form each buyer, but why not make at least one offer. You don't even have to face the indignation of the seller, since part of your user ID is hidden until the offer is accepted, so give it a try. After all, if the seller has this option then you can bet there will be an offer that will be acceptable. Don't be a mug and pay the full price. Remember, though, that you will be entering into a formal agreement, as soon as you make the offer, and the seller could keep you waiting for up to 48 hours (the validity period for offers) while they consider the situation, maybe preventing you from bidding elsewhere until you have an answer from the first seller.

ALL IS NOT LOST

Ok, so you've been outbid and lost the item you so desperately wanted. Well, as a seller I've lost count of the number of successful bidders who pulled out of the deal, and I've subsequently sold to the second highest bidder. The two main problems are that inexperienced sellers may not even have heard of second chance offers, and seasoned sellers often have a policy of not making second chance offers, simply because it's something that fraudsters will latch on to, masquerading as the seller and emailing the second highest bidder in an attempt to get the dosh.  If you want that item then make the seller aware that you are genuine and you will be ready to pay up if the winning bidder doesn't come up with the cash. You will need to ensure that you haven't got your ability to receive second chance offers blocked, in your preferences, and that your approach using the "ask seller a question" link isn't construed as fee avoidance (it's absolutely vital to word the suggestion carefully). If you compose a handy email that you can cut and paste at will, you can quickly use this technique if your "low bidding" plan isn't coming up with the goods.

THE SHEEPSKIN COAT

You have to be bold, but there are many buyers who will target sellers, asking if they will take "an offer", and there are many sellers who will say yes, if only they'd thought of offering a "Buy it Now" option. Every man, or woman, has their price, and there's no harm in asking. Use the "ask seller a question" link and talk business. If they agree, get them to add a "Buy it Now", but before someone places a bid. As I mentioned in the previous paragraph, ensure that you conduct your transaction through eBay, to stay within the rules, and remember that the seller can "publish" your suggestion at the bottom of their listing, so keep things polite. Do the deal, but get ready with your finger on the button.